Marlow cop Tony Lynch

Marlow cop, Tony Lynch, and his wife Allison Ward Lynch, signed over rights to Tony's then 6 year old son to his mom over one year ago (as long as his mom agreed that Tony and Allison would provide no financial/child support).  We were told this is due to the saftey issues that this 5-6 old boy caused for his brother and new half-brother.  Yes, a 5-6 year old.  Let's consider this could be true; wouldn't you, as an obligated parent, provide counseling, therapy, etc.?  This was not provided; they just signed him over to his mother.  Many years prior, Tony's family paid legal fees  to successfully get full custody of him and his brother from this same woman due to her drug addiction and stability issues.  In the one year (plus) he has been with his mom and her boyfriend, he has been exposed to a drug environment and seeing his mother repeatedly beaten (rarely seeing or even talking to his biological father Tony).  When he stayed with us over the summer, he told me he would often try to keep his 'dad' (the boyfriend) from hitting his mom.  Long story short, a judge ordered Corey's youngest baby be taken away due to neglect and was admitted to drug rehab to avoid a drug arrest last night.  His aunt, Lacey Burton, who has 3 kids herself, including twin babies, has stepped in and kept him many times when his mom requested.  Lacey had him when his mom was admitted and agreed to temporary custody per his mother's request.  Now, Tony threatens that Lacey has kidnapped him.  Showing up with four cop cars, Tony took his son away today.  My nephew, of course, didn't want to go with someone who abandoned him and clung to his grandmother asking why he has to go.  Please pray he has a stable environment, a permanent home and can rely on the fact that he is loved and will not be given away again.  If Tony would respond to contact, Teri and I would gladly provide all of these things for him.

by Jerred Wilson

Selling Yourself on the Internet

I think that anyone who sells themselves on the internet by selling a service or representing themselves as an entertainer opens themselves up to criticism be it positive or negative.  If you are going to present yourself in a certain light or a certain way publicly for people to view you should be ready and prepared to face the music of all aspects of your life.  If you are going to make money off of people I think people should know all the information before they decide to contribute to a business or pay for services.  Expressing an opinion or even factual information is not against the law. It's called freedom of speech.  Then if your consumers decide to contribute then that is their choice.  But I am a firm believer that knowledge is power but the information should be disseminated for all to know.  That's one thing that makes this country great!

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History

The purpose of this blog is to create an historical accounting of the divide that has happened over the past year within my family.  It is an expression of feelings and perspectives as I was a witness to what happened.  Maybe one day, my nephews when they get older, will see this and have a different understanding about why they stopped seeing their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.  Maybe they've been told one story but there is actually another story too.  What about our side?  What about the loss and devastation that we have gone through because of someone else's decision?  

Almost a year ago, September 10, 2011, my family was devastated to learn that my six year old nephew, we'll call him K.A., whom had been living with his father (my brother) and step mother for nearly his entire life, had been sent to live over an hour away with his biological mother.  Unfortunately for all of us, no one in my extended family knew that he was no longer living with my brother.  I came by to see them one weekend and when I got to his house he was just gone.  His bed was taken down and there was no trace of him in the house at all.  At the time, they made it seem like K.A. was still apart of their family but it is clear now that he is not.  He doesn't even have a bed to sleep in at his own father's house.  Sometimes I wonder if I had not gone by his house that day how long it would have been before anyone learned that K.A. had been moved away?

  

This story is not an overnight one and  I'd like to give you a little history and explain how our family has been affected by the loss of a relationship with my three nephews.  When my brother and his ex wife split up, my mother stepped in and helped my brother for over two years.  My mother would watch the two boys that my brother and his ex wife had together at her barber shop, take them home in the evenings, bathe, feed, and put the boys to bed.  Tony would come and pick them up after his shift as a police officer.  Every year in October I would fly or drive to Oklahoma to celebrate my nephew's birthdays as they are just a few days apart.  Then, my brother met and married his current wife.  Things were great and we really believed that his wife was going to step in and help take care of my nephews.  She was a new addition to the family and she made my brother happy.  She changed his life.  They since have had another boy together whom we all loved just as much as the other two boys.  Shortly after their son was born in May 2010, my brother's new wife started complaining to me and my mother that my middle nephew was causing trouble around the house; scratching brand new furniture, and I can't remember everything right now, but she said that he was causing problems, "acting out", and had ADHD.  Then about 5 to 6 months later my oldest nephew, she said, was now causing problems and it was never my middle nephew.  She said it was all K.A.'s fault and he was to blame for causing problems.  She said that K.A. pushed my middle nephew into a coffee table, causing a huge gash requiring stitches, while they were left unattended.  My oldest nephew was also accused of kicking and abusing a 100 lb. labrador retriever dog.  Allison kept telling me and other people K.A. needed counseling and he had also tried to burn his little brother with a curling iron.  Many times my brother's wife talked about how K.A. needed counseling and I encouraged them to find a counselor every time we would talk and she would tell me the "problems" he was having.  Unfortunately, he was never placed in any kind of counseling.  She would explain that he was abnormal and didn't respond to being disciplined.  The next thing I know K.A. had been moved out of the house and sent with his clothes in a trash bag to his biological mother's house.  The explanation I received at the time was that K.A. chose on his own to go back to his mom's house and had stated "I hate Allison."  So, he was sent away at 6 years old.  My mom, K.A.'s grandmother, was never told that her grandson was sent away.  After leaving my brother's house that day, I had to call my mom and explain to her what had happened.  I was heart broken.  As his aunt I was never told he was going to be moving back to his mom's.  In my mind she had abandoned her kids.  The decision was made in complete secret which feels strange, methodical, and deceptive.  These are my feeling about him being sent to his mom's.  Right or wrong they are my feelings.  Imagine how my mother felt after having helped take care of them for over two years.  What would you think?  How would you feel if this was your grandchild?

Standing on his front porch, my brother explained to me that they couldn't find a counselor for him to help him if he was having problems.  The craziest thing about it is Allison and T.L. would not allow K.A.'s biological mom to come and visit while they were dating and after they were married.  And both of them would control contact and visitation while talking badly about her to anyone and everyone including me and my mother, as well as publicly on facebook.  As far as they were concerned, she would never see my nephews again since she had "abandoned" them as babies.   She still is not allowed to see or talk to my middle nephew but she was basically handed over my oldest nephew with a promissory note stating that they would not pay child support to her. You have to ask yourself, "Does this make sense to you?"  

Speaking for others in my family, we feel betrayed and alienated from my brother, who prior to getting remarried, would have never given up one of his sons.  They don't send money to take care of him, provide medical insurance, or even go to visit him since he was sent away.  Having talked with his mom, he asks her "Am I a bad kid?"  As far as we know in the last year my brother has seen him one time.  He didn't see K.A for his birthday or for Christmas.  K.A. is not allowed to speak or see his younger brothers. 

I don't know why this has happened.  I wish there was more I could do.  But for now I just want to tell my nephews that I love them and I miss them.  I hope to see you all again one day.